The Grammys Reminded Us: Your Dreams Matter—Especially When Life Gets Messy AF
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Last night's Grammy Awards wasn't just another awards show where we pretend to care about who designed whose dress. It was a powerful reminder of why I do what I do at Golden Hour Life Coaching—and why I'm probably crying into my coffee this morning. (Spoiler: they were happy tears. Mostly.)
As Trevor Noah took the stage for his final time as host, and as CBS aired the Grammys for the last time, there was something beautifully symbolic about endings making space for new beginnings. Kind of like when you finally break up with that job that was slowly killing your soul, or stop dating people who think "communication" means texting "wyd" at 2am.
The night was filled with tributes to the artists we lost, acceptance speeches that championed hope and community, ICE Out buttons declaring solidarity with immigrants, and Bad Bunny taking home Album of the Year. Through it all, one message rang clear: Keep believing in your dreams, no matter what.
That's exactly my mission with GHLC. Except with more swearing and probably better snacks.
When Life Gets Messy, Your Dreams Matter Most
Lola Young won for her song "Messy"—and honestly, can we just give her a second Grammy for naming what we're all living? Because life doesn't just get a little messy. It gets "I haven't done laundry in two weeks and I'm pretty sure that's not chocolate on my shirt" messy.
The question isn't whether you'll face hardship; it's whether you'll keep believing in yourself when your life looks like a crime scene and you're the detective with no clues.
Because here's the truth nobody wants to tell you: Nothing happens overnight. Believing in yourself fiercely takes daily practice. Like brushing your teeth, except way harder and with more existential dread.
When life feels like it's actively shitting on us (and let's be honest, sometimes the universe has terrible aim), that's precisely when we need to double down on:
Dreaming bigger (even if it sounds ridiculous)
Putting ourselves out there (yes, even when you feel like a hot mess)
Speaking up (your voice matters, even if it cracks)
Taking up space (you're allowed to exist loudly, babe)
Believing in ourselves (fake it till you make it is a valid strategy)
The Power of Being Seen (Without Your Spanx)
The tribute to D'Angelo & Roberta Flack—led by Lauren Hill and featuring Bilal, Anthony Hamilton, Rafael Saadiq, and so many others—was absolutely stunning. Like, "I need to reapply my mascara now" stunning.
Watching artists come together to celebrate him reminded me of something crucial: When life is good, we're all confident queens who don't struggle with self-doubt. But when life gets messy? That's when we can feel invisible. That's when we start thinking, "What's the point? Should I just become a hermit and adopt seventeen cats?"
Listen up, porque esto es importante: The point is YOU. Your dreams matter. And seventeen cats is probably too many.
Seeing that community show up for D'Angelo, watching Chaka Khan and John Legend deliver that beautiful duet—it was a reminder that we all need people who see us, celebrate us, and remind us we're not actually garbage humans, especially during the messy times.
Keep Working (But Also, Like, Sleep Sometimes)
Pharrell Williams said it best: "Keep working." He reminded us that if you persist, you'll eventually get paid to do what you'd do for free. And he was raised by a teacher and a handyman—proof that your starting point doesn't determine your destination. (Thank you, universe, because some of us started in some interesting places.)
But here's what I know from coaching high-achievers for years: If we don't practice self-love daily and take action towards our dreams (aka our goals), how can we maintain that belief in ourselves when things get hard?
You can't just flip a switch and suddenly have unwavering self-belief when life throws you a curveball. Or a whole box of curveballs. At your face. While you're already juggling flaming swords.
Self-belief is built through daily practice:
Loving yourself intentionally (even the parts that make weird noises)
Setting boundaries without guilt (no is a complete sentence, bestie)
Taking up space unapologetically (you're not "too much," they're just not enough)
Showing up for your dreams even when it feels scary (plot twist: it's always scary)
If This World Were Mine (Someone Let Me Redesign Everything)
If I could redesign the world? Learning to love yourself, set boundaries, and take up space would be taught from the womb. Right alongside "here's how taxes work" and "that person who says they're 'not like other girls' is exactly like other girls and that's actually fine."
(Thank you, Kendrick and SZA, for that Luther remake that captured this sentiment so beautifully. I wasn't crying, YOU were crying.)
But since I can't redesign the world—and nobody's letting me have that kind of power, which is probably smart—I'm doing the next best thing: helping high-achieving professionals build that foundation for themselves.
Especially those of you who are absolutely killing it in your careers but somehow still can't figure out how to love yourselves or pick a romantic partner who isn't, well... a walking red flag convention.
No Matter the Hardships (And There Will Be Hardships, Mija)
Last night's Grammys was about more than music. It was about resilience. Community. Hope. Dreaming despite the obstacles—and let's be real, there are always obstacles. They're like spam emails: constant, annoying, and you didn't ask for them.
It was about immigrants being celebrated and supported. It was about artists using their platform to speak truth. It was about Bad Bunny—a Puerto Rican artist who sings primarily in Spanish—winning Album of the Year.
It was about taking up space and refusing to shrink, even when the world keeps handing you smaller boxes to fit into.
That's what I want for you, too. Whether life is currently serving you champagne or a dumpster fire smoothie, your dreams deserve your attention. Your worth isn't conditional on having it all figured out. (Spoiler: nobody has it all figured out. They're all just better at pretending.)
Your voice matters even when—especially when—things get messy.
So keep working. Keep dreaming. Keep believing in yourself fiercely, every single day. Even on the days when you're pretty sure you're frauding your way through life and everyone's about to find out.
(Pro tip: That's called imposter syndrome, and it means you're actually growing. Congrats, you're doing it right.)
The Bottom Line (Because You're Busy and I Respect That)
You matter. Your dreams matter. And the world needs what only you can bring to it—your specific blend of messy, brilliant, imperfect, powerful, authentic YOU.
So stop shrinking. Stop apologizing for taking up space. Stop waiting for permission to believe in yourself.
And if you need someone in your corner reminding you of all this while you figure out how to love yourself as fiercely as you love everyone else? Well, that's literally my job. And I'm really good at it.
Ready to build unshakeable self-belief and finally prioritize yourself? Let's talk. Your golden hour is waiting—and it's gonna be messy, beautiful, and absolutely worth it.
P.S. Yes, we can talk about Bad Bunny during our sessions. I contain multitudes.
